Very Bad Things

Wildfires, hurricanes, tornadoes, a pandemic, senseless deaths, ongoing rioting, murder hornets and meteors. If you go by the headlines, 2020 feels like one long year of “Very Bad Things.”  But in the midst of all the bad news, I have some good news for you – God turns very bad things into very good things.

Genesis records the story of a young man named Joseph, whose brothers hated him so much they trapped him in a pit and planned to kill him.  Some slave traders were passing by, so instead they sold him into slavery to get rid of him.  He worked hard for his master and was ultimately rewarded with a position of responsibility, only to be falsely accused of wrongdoing and jailed.  Without anyone to advocate for him, Joseph languished in jail, forgotten about even by those who said they would help him.  But God had not forgotten Joseph.  He was moving him into the exact position He wanted him in at the exact time he needed to be there.  

Joseph became the second in command of all of Egypt and saved countless people from dying of famine because he was willing to listen to what God had to say about the future.  He was in the palace the day his brothers came to beg for food.  And instead of payback for all the very bad things he had endured, Joseph showed them mercy.  Compassion.  Forgiveness.  When he revealed who he was to his brothers, he said, You were out to destroy me, but God turned it all into good (Genesis 50:20).

Two thousand years later, Jesus’ brethren set out to destroy Him.  Their actions led to the Cross.  But the Bible says the Cross was God’s plan from the beginning, that it is the only means by which a lost and starving people can be saved (Ephesians 1:5).

God works ALL things together into His plans for good (Romans 8:28).  He doesn’t just make the best of a bad situation.  No.  He makes good – He redeems – what was evil.  Restores what was broken.  Rescues what was lost.  

All of that goodness is costly to God. The price was the life of His only beloved Son.  I’m certain our sin sorrows Him to this day.  So why does He do it?  Why does He keep making good out of very bad things?  It would be so much easier to say – They deserve what they get.  Or They’re more trouble than they’re worth.  Or They’re just going to mess up again anyway.

The only answer I can see is just this – because He loves us.  Because for some inconceivable, incomprehensible reason He says we’re worth it.  “Others died that you  might live.  I traded their lives for yours because you are precious to me. You are honored, and I love you” (Isaiah 43:4).  That is a very good thing.

To my nephew and his fiancee

Your smiles say more than the announcement.  I can see the joy and happiness you’ve found in one another.  I’m so happy for you on your engagement!  

After more than two decades of marriage, I know that not every moment will be sun-kissed.  So with my congratulations, I also want to remind you that the greatest measure of love is shown by laying down your life (John 15:13).  It’s pretty unlikely you will have to physically die for one another, but I guarantee you will be challenged to put your Self to death on a regular basis (Luke 9:23).  

When two become one, it means that you are bound in a way that is a great mystery.  When you harm the other person, you harm yourself.  When you care for the other person, it is the greatest practice of self-care you can ever exercise (Ephesians 5:28).  Love seeks the best interests of the beloved.

My wish for you is that for most of your days together, that will be easy.  But there will be days when that’s hard.  On those days, ask yourself, “Do I want to be right, or do I want to be reconciled?”  There are very few confrontations within a marriage where our right-ness is more important than our relationship.

Those hard days will define and shape you in a way that the easy days never will.  How you respond will prove the quality of your love – for your spouse, and also for the Lord, who has called us to love one another the way He loved us (John 13:34-35).  That kind of love will be costly, but who would want a worthless love?

So may your bright days lessen the darkness of the difficult ones, and may the hard ones hone and sharpen your love into something fierce and strong.  In all of it, may the lavish love of the Lord for you guide you in loving one another.