Don’t get in the van

“I just wanna go home,” my daughter wailed.

It had started very simply. A missed communication that had led to angry feelings that had led to tears. Now we were sitting in the car trying to sort it out. Because there was no point in driving to our house when it would only mean hiding her feelings behind the door to her room. And I just wasn’t willing to let her go there. Not because I didn’t want to give her a break or let the matter drop, but because I didn’t want her alone with the enemy.

Earlier that morning our pastor had shared that when he was a kid riding his bike, some men in a van pulled up beside him and invited him to get inside and go for a ride. He saw their invitation for the lie it was and he pedaled out of there as fast as he could go. This is often the way our enemy comes to us. He says one thing – come on, it’ll be fun! – but the truth is not in him (John 8:44). His intention is our destruction.

That old enemy drove his van right up next to my daughter just a few minutes after the service ended. She went to blow her nose, sister and dad went to get their coats, I went to get brother. And when she couldn’t find us in the crowd, she got scared. Fear never tells us the truth. But instead of remembering what she knew to be true – that we would not leave her behind – she listened to the lie that she was overlooked and unloved. She got in the van. She let the enemy take her captive.

Our Savior will not allow us to remain lost (Matthew 18:12). He won’t let the enemy take what belongs to Him (John 10:28-29). He won’t let us go because His love for us is deep and unending. I couldn’t just take my daughter home, even though it would have been far easier, because her heart was at stake. How could I just let her drive off with the enemy and do nothing, say nothing?

The home my daughter wanted wasn’t the four walls of our house. It was the safety and security of belonging, of unity with our family. The enemy didn’t want this for her, doesn’t want this for any of us. That’s why he drove a wedge between Eve and God in the Garden in the first place. We’ve been longing for home ever since.

So what can we do? We can fight back against the enemy who wants to capture us and drag us off and destroy us. We can defend our hearts. We can defend the hearts of others. By our actions and our words we build walls of protection that keep the enemy out. And when the van pulls up, we pull out our sword – the truth (Ephesians 6:17).

The truth frees us from the entanglement of the enemy’s lies (John 8:32). It’s the sword we use to defend our hearts against the enemy who wants to steal them from us. It’s the counterattack to his assaults. When we resist him, he flees because he has no real power (James 4:7, John 14:30).

The truth is that my daughter is a sinner and I’m a sinner and yet we do not have to be enemies. There can be peace between us because we’ve both received forgiveness at the Cross. Every relationship needs this Gospel-truth at some time or another. It’s the way out of the darkness that brings us home.

Jesus said to the people, “I am the light of the world. If you follow me, you won’t be stumbling through the darkness, because you will have the light that leads to life.” John 8:12

 

Don’t Skip Thanksgiving

We had our first snowfall the other day. The kids were thrilled to have the day off of school. They played Christmas music and begged to put up the decorations. “We haven’t even had Thanksgiving yet!” I responded. “So what?” they answered.

It’s the same thing in stores. Halloween wasn’t even over before the Christmas displays began to appear. Maybe Thanksgiving just isn’t a big money maker unless you’re the grocery. I guess when I think about it, that kind of makes sense. Gratitude doesn’t cost anything. It doesn’t require a shiny bow or elaborate planning. It’s best when it’s just spontaneously and sincerely given. We can cover a grinchy spirit with wrapping paper, but there’s no mistaking genuine gratitude.

Thankfulness isn’t our natural response. We don’t have to teach children to be selfish, but we do teach them (and remind them!) to say thank you. That’s all the more reason not to skip Thanksgiving. As we enter into the holiday season, before the frenzy of giving and getting and entertaining, it’s good to pause and reflect. To value and appreciate. To give praise before we give any other gift.

Maybe you don’t really appreciate your circumstances right now. That’s ok. We don’t always need to be glad about where we are. That’s not where thankfulness begins. Instead it begins with God, and our acknowledging who He is.

Thank God for who He is. All the good in our lives has His goodness as its starting point. Goodness is what He intends for us.  Goodness is what He has promised us. So we can be confident that good is coming.

“Since the world began, no ear has heard, and no eye has seen a God like you, who works for those who wait for him.” Isaiah 64:4, emphasis added

Thank God for His sovereignty over all He has made. Nothing is outside of His jurisdiction. Nothing is beyond His knowledge or His power. There is great comfort in any situation when we know this to be true.

“We can be [absolutely] sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.” Romans 8:28 MSG

Thank God for what He has done. Read Psalm 136 for a review of the goodness God  revealed through His care for Israel. There is mercy, kindness, compassion, protection, blessing, provision, salvation. These are the things we’re asking God for when we go to Him with our requests. These are what we can expect to receive from Him.

“He gives us grace and glory. No good thing will the Lord withhold from those who do what is right.” Psalm 84:11

Let gratitude be the very first gift you give of the Christmas season.

“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good! His faithful love endures forever.” Psalm 136:1